We all make mistakes, right? It’s completely normal. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t and this idea that we are ‘perfect’ is wrong – there is no such thing.
The reason we make mistakes is to learn from them. I was compelled to write about this because I feel it is important to remember that we need reassurance after a setback or a mistake.
When we are in the midst of making a mistake or facing a setback we get this crazy feeling of hotness… We go into a mode of fear and ask ourselves what will happen or worry about what has just happened. We then potentially act out of fear and make rash decisions, which may have had a different outcome had we given ourselves time to think over it.
I want you to always remember that if you get caught in a difficult situation, don’t feel like you have to make a decision straight away. Take some time to absorb, sleep on it, come back the next day and your thoughts will feel clearer. At the time, you may feel the need to make a decision right away but give it some time next time and see how it feels.
How you deal with mistakes is important
I understand that confidence can be seriously knocked down after a setback. We all experience setbacks in our lives but how you deal with them is the most important. We feel as though we poured our heart and soul into something and when things don’t happen the way we expect them to, we feel as though it wasn’t worth it. We want to give up and feel like we aren’t good enough. However, this is not the case at all. Read that again – that is not the case at all! JK Rowling got rejected by 12 publishers before getting signed for her first Harry Potter book – 12!
Now after the first 2-3 setbacks most people would have felt like giving up, right? But, to go through 12 publishers shows her commitment, her passion, and drive for her idea and she was right. I want you to remember setbacks are not a failure, you are not a failure if you get turned away, it is guidance. Guidance from the universe to tell you either you are not quite ready or something better is coming your way. Place your trust in the process and believe you are worthy of achieving everything you desire if you commit to it.
Commitment is the keyword here. I know some days you will feel like you’re not progressing, you aren’t achieving what you thought you wanted to by a certain date… but keep going. It takes commitment, time, repetition, and passion.
I want you to remember the following if you have gone through setbacks:
- It is making you stronger.
- Your commitment and passion should always remain at the heart of your why.
- Seek challenges, opportunities and if you are turned away remember something better is coming.
- No one is born an expert.
- Strive for progress and not perfection.
- You are capable of achieving all you desire if you put your mind to it.
- Surround yourself with a supportive network of people who can be there when you are feeling down and need a boost.
- It’s ok to have down days, feel all the feels.
- Confidence is not a destination and it requires to be worked on daily.
- Keep stepping out of that comfort zone, it is where the magic happens.
I want you to know that making mistakes is normal; it is how we learn more about ourselves and know what we should and should not do. Don’t beat yourself up so much. You should also know that by being honest with yourself and accepting your mistakes you have the ability to clear out the negative thoughts and see it as a clear learning curve.
I hope this has helped you understand that setbacks are okay and mistakes are normal. How you deal with them is what is important. We are all human, we are all learning, evolving, being challenged, ‘winging’ it and that is OK! Keep growing, keep making mistakes, keep being honest, keep educating yourself, keep remembering your worth and keep showing up.
As a Transformational Career & Confidence Coach, Amy works closely to support highly driven and ambitious individuals who need support identifying their purpose and career goals and ultimately regain confidence along the way!